You can’t go back in time and rewrite history any more than you can unscramble an egg. I hate to break it to you, but the time machine has not been invented yet. We cannot change the past. BUT what we can do is let go of the past, and stop dwelling on the “what if’s”.
Have you ever thought about a situation in your life that you wished never happened? Do you ever wish you could go back in time, and change a decision you have made? Have you ever been so consumed with the past that you miss out on living in the present? This is what happens when you can’t let go of what has already passed. You remain in your memories and the “what if” turning points in your life. You are paused, but the world carries on. The sun does not notice that you are stuck in time, and it continues to rise and set and bring forth new days.
Letting go of things we cannot change is easier said than done. When I am finding the process of letting go quite difficult, I imagine myself as water. The average adult human body is made up of about 60-75% of water, after all. Visualizing my whole self as water, I take note of the issues (and sometimes a person) that I need to let go of. I see the issues floating around inside me, causing harm. I visualize letting go of these issues, and they flow out of me and away from me.
I am no fool. I understand that visualizing something does not neccessarily make it happen. But this helps me with letting go. A friend of mine prefers writing things out on paper. When she is finished writing out her feelings, she burns the paper. Everyone is different, and so each person’s way of letting go is different.
Have you ever known someone who just can’t let anything go? They may hold onto grudges, or are always complaining about the same thing? My Grandmother is someone like this. I have never known her to be a happy or joyful person. You could move mountains to help her, but her attitude is never one of gratefulness or appreciation. I will never stop loving her, or trying to make her life more comfortable. I only wish I could help change her outlook on life. But you cannot change other people, only offer your help. This is one area that I still struggle with letting go of. She is on her own journey, and I have to respect that. You cannot force your views on other people.
You are on your own journey through life. Your path is your own. There have been forks on this road, and paths not taken. Accept where you are at this point on your path; at this point in your life. For the road ahead also has varying paths, and now you are conscious of that. You are aware of the choices life presents to you, and you can know that each choice leads to a different outcome. Even choosing to not make a decision, is a decision in itself.
Today I am choosing kindness. I am choosing to show kindness to all I encounter. I am choosing to be kind to myself, and know that it’s more than okay to take time for myself.
What choices are you going to make today?
-Hazel.
Hazel Moon 